I’m guest posting today at KludgyMom today about managing different parenting styles with your spouse. Actually, I’m talking about how Dan is a very laid back parent and I am a… less laid back parent and how we deal with that. I guess we’re managing ok, since we decided to do it again. Yep, I’m pregnant! But that’s not what this post is about. It’s about marriage and babies and co-existing even though sometimes you want to kill the other person but that’s really just because you love the shit out of them and the reason you fell in love in the first place is that they are different from you. Here’s an excerpt:
When you meet someone who is your polar opposite, it is best to marry that person and have babies together. At least that’s what my husband, Dan, and I think. He’s a morning person. I am a night owl. He is an introvert. I am an extrovert. I make decisions based on feelings, while he relies on data and reason to determine his choices.
Dan believes the best thing we can do for our children is to send them into the world with the skills to be self-sufficient. While I agree with him 100%, I have been known to snuggle our toddler into my chest and whisper in her ear, “Don’t ever get big, ok?”
When I was pregnant Dan referred constantly to our “kid.” As in “When the kid is born, we’ll be glad we have so many meals in the freezer.” or “I look forward to getting this pregnancy body pillow out of our bed once the kid is born.” I repeatedly reminded him, “I am not giving birth to a kid. I am giving birth to a baby.” I did not want him to be disappointed to find our infant would not be his hiking buddy right away. Click here to read more.
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Aw, congratulations Pam!!!
Will head over, but wanted to tell you really fast that I LOVED your essay in HerStories!
Congrats! I love the homebirth picture. Beautiful 🙂