3| Nesha V. Frazier: I have the power to create whatever I want

Nesha is a USAF veteran, mom of 3, former track and field sprinter turned half marathoner, certified HR consultant by trade & founder of Courage Hackers, a self leadership development company for women over 30. 

**Trigger warning: Pregnancy loss**

Courage Hackers podcast

Show notes 

  • Nesha’s take on self-leadership   
  • Finding spirituality in running
  • The surprisi (and hea
  • The surprising — and heartbreaking — reason Nesha quit the track team and dropped out of college, which she calls “the only regret I have in my life.”
  • From college to McDonald’s
  • Joining the Air Force, being deployed to South Korea and having amazing female leaderships 
  • On being an introvert 
  • Finding her voice; learning how to speak up for who she was and what she stood for
  • Her quarter-life crisis, which led Nesha to ask: “Who am I and what do I want?”
  • Sitting in her car for ten minutes in the middle of the day as a form of self-care
  • On staying focused on your vision while still getting the day to day stuff done as a mom of three
  • Going through recurrent pregnancy loss 
  • How miscarriages saved her life 
  • Nesha doesn’t wear socks on runs (even long runs!)


“Self-leadership for me is the idea of you controlling the narrative for your life the direction for your life no matter what that looks like.” 

“You don’t have to be at the mercy of forces outside of you.” 

“The greatest regret I have in my life is about running but it’s also the thing that gives me the most calm, the most peace, is running”  

“I had at 19 years old the most amazing opportunity to see women in power. And I didn’t see that in my life. Not just one or two but the entire leadership, was women… One of the women was the only black female colonel in the entire Air Force.”

“I’m one of those birds that struggles to be caged.”

“There’s just as much power in being a great listener as there is in being a great speaker.”

“Being a woman of color, I never really heard any other Black women talking about pregnancy loss. No one in my real life was talking about pregnancy loss… You should know you can still be strong. It’s not a failure on your part.”

“I’m trying to trust my voice.”

“I used to pray for a friend like me.”

“You have to get up instead of sitting around and waiting for someone to give you an opportunity.”

“Instead of trying to find the time to work out, make the time.”

“Do the things that bring you joy instead of waiting for someone to do that for you.”

“I bounce back.”

“I have the power to create whatever I want.”

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